So there is this thing called love, the reason I call it a thing is because its a feeling but also a verb, something you do. You feel it but yet you also do it, so im just going to call it a thing. This thing love is so powerful, but yet this world throws it around like its nothing. One reason I dont like the English language is it only has one word for love, the Hebrews have at least 3 and the Greeks have 4. So in english we can say we love our wife, and we love tacos. Hm comparing your wife and a food. See what I mean? Love is degraded by the English language.
I like the 3 words the Hebrews use for love the most. Raya, Avahah and Dode, (not sure on the spellings). Raya is love between friends, like good friends. Avahah is unconditional love, like the love Christ showed us through his sacrifice. And Dode is physical love, like what should only be between a married couple. The reason I pick these 3 is because you need these 3 in any marriage. They need to be balanced and if they are then it is a healthy marriage.
The saying you marry your best friend is so true. Before you date anyone, you need to get to know them on a friendship level, otherwise you run the risk of getting too much of the other Loves before Raya. And yes it can work out were you meet and start dating cause if you are focused and want it to work you will try to get to know the person you are dating. But doesnt it make sense you need to be able to tell them whatever? Before moving onto Avahah or Dode, you need to get Raya.
Once you have Raya in your relationship, Avahah will come and this is when Love really starts to show. This is when you will say I love you and mean it. This is when you would do anything for the one that you Avahah. Then there is Dode, this love is anything from holding hands to yes of course sex. Dode needs to be controlled in till marriage otherwise it can compromise your marriage.
The beauty is that when these 3 loves are in perfect balance they become a fire that cant be put out because Love Wins.
If you want more insight to these 3 loves watch this Rob Bell video, he does a really good job explaining them.
